7 YRS PROCESS - DAY 207 - MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 8

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Mountain of problems within the relationship

This is the continuation of the previous article:

MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 1
MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 2
MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 3
MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 4
MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 5
MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 6
MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 7


How to avoid creation of the mountain of problems ?

Well... once you learn how to solve the mountain of problems you will know how to avoid it. It is simple as that.

Apart from this the whole relationship must follow the principle of what is best for all.

When and as I see myself looking at other men/women and I find them more attractive and interesting then my partner who seems to be boring I stop and I breathe. I realize that I am entering the phase when the problems in my relationship start to accumulate because I have not solved them when they appeared and I deny seeing it. And within looking for other partners who seem to be more interesting then my current partner I am running away from seeing what I have allowed and I am trying to escape from taking the responsibility for all the problems which I have created and solving them; thus I stop looking around for more attractive and interesting partners and instead I investigate what I have allowed within my relationship and I work on solving all the problems which I have created.

When and as I see myself that I am considering finishing the relationship because I feel overwhelmed by the mountain of problems I stop and I breathe. I realize that the mountain of problems is the consequence of me not solving the small problems when they appear and I have let them accumulate over the time. Thus I look and investigate what can be done practically and I work on solving the problems which I have created and allowed to accumulate over the time.

When and as I see myself blaming my partner for the problems in my relationship with him and I expect him and I press him to do something about it while I see myself as completely innocent and/or hurt, I stop and I breathe. I realize that the problems which I am facing within my relationship have been created by both of us and must be solved by both of us; thus I stop denying the fact that I have also contributed and created the problems which I am facing in my relationship and instead I take responsibility for it and I work practically on solving them together with my partner.



I commit myself to build/create relationship/agreement/friendship with other being/s only under the principle of what is best for all as I realize that any other relationship is always a form of abuse because I either abuse others for self interest or I am being abused by others.






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