This is the continuation of the previous article:
MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 1
MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 2
MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 3
MOUNTAIN OF PROBLEMS WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP - PART 4
This is a short explanation about the self forgiveness because I have noticed that there exists confusion among the readers about it. Thus self forgiveness is written in the form of "I forgive myself..." because in that moment I stop separating myself from the whole situation and instead I put myself one and equal with it and within this I also take full responsibility for the creation of it. Thus it must be understood that sometimes I have not experienced directly something in my life but still I understand that I am interconnected with the whole creation on this planet and universe and within this interconnectedness I have put my part into creating it within this reality. For example I cast my vote for a president which later leads a politics of war. Am I responsible for all the suffering and deaths committed during the wars and later long years after the war ( e.g. war invalids suffer their whole life ) ? Of course I am responsible for it. Even though it seems at first ridiculous but this is the fact. Stop blaming your president and/or soldiers. They are not the only ones to blame. And apart from this there are many other aspects and elements which contributed to the war and you were the one who created them but you are not aware of them in that moment because you have decided to suppress and deny to see them. This is another fact.
Thus I stop separating myself from it, I stop washing my hands and blaming others for it and instead I take responsibility for it all, which means that I place myself one and equal with it. And in that moment I am able to direct it as myself and change it. Thus for example I could write: "I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to cheat on my partner with his/her best friend...... etc." Even though I did not have this experience in my life but yet I take responsibility for it, I become in totality one and equal with it and I forgive it myself as if I did it myself directly.
This point may be a little bit tricky if you start to work with it once you are in the relationship and because your partner may not understand at first the principle of equality, he or she may get confused about your self forgiveness statements and create unnecessary havoc in your relationship. Now... should I be held accountable and face the consequences of it ? For example my partner finds out about my self forgiveness statement about cheating with his/her best friend and based on it make the decision to terminate the relationship. To clarify this point I give another example: "I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to kill president J.F. Kennedy......". We know that I have not done it because I have not been born yet at that time and it would be ridiculous to try to accuse me for it based on my self forgiveness statement and sentence me to prison for it. But yet at the same time I admit that I take full responsibility for it because through interconnectedness of all the existence within the universe I have put my part to it and thus I am responsible for it even though I have not been born yet on earth at that time. Or maybe I was if we take into consideration the aspect of reincarnation ???
I know that some of you will be scratching your head and saying: "WTF this guy has been smoking ?". I tell you that I have not been smoking or drinking anything which would alter my mind. It is that still majority of people on Earth struggle to grasp and understand the principle of equality and interconnectedness of the whole creation and existence and they are trying to find the best possible explanation of it within the frame of their mind. And because being a crazy person or somebody who takes drugs is the closest and most possible reference within the limited number of possible compartments of their mind, thus I am being defined and labeled as that by them. The mind must always label the things because it could not exist without it.
Thus my self forgiveness statements are not about anybody else. It is not about my friends who had fight at home because of the conflict on the beach. It is all about me becoming one and equal with the totality of the creation and existence in this reality and taking responsibility for it. Of course you ( any reader ) may use it for yourself if you find that you relate to certain points / statements. But in any case it would be best if you write down your own self forgiveness statements and read them aloud for yourself.
To be continued...