I have written this series of articles based primarily on my experiences with my father who's been addicted heavily to alcohol for almost 30 years. But because this is a very common problem I have written in more general form ( father/mother/husband/wife/boyfriend/friend/child ) if you see that you are making similar mistakes when dealing with a person in your close environment ( family, friendship, relationship ) who is addicted.
This is the continuation of the previous article:
HOW TO DEAL WITH ADDICTION WITHIN RELATIONSHIP - PART 1
HOW TO DEAL WITH ADDICTION WITHIN RELATIONSHIP - PART 2
HOW TO DEAL WITH ADDICTION WITHIN RELATIONSHIP - PART 3
HOW TO DEAL WITH ADDICTION WITHIN RELATIONSHIP - PART 4
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that my father/mother/husband/wife/boyfriend/friend/child needs me to help him with the addiction instead of realizing that I have created this situation in my life and I have attracted this person into my life because I wanted to prove to myself and others that I am a good person who takes care of my father/mother/husband/wife/boyfriend/friend/child even in the most difficult situation; thus I forgive myself that I have created an idea in my mind about me being a good person and to make myself to believe it to be real, I attract people into my life who are addicted and I play the role of a helper.
I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that my father/mother/husband/wife/boyfriend/friend/child is able to solve his problem with addiction without my help and he is able to do it in one moment of breath as a self directive decision; thus every time I insist and I have necessity to help my father/mother/husband/wife/boyfriend/friend/child with the addiction then I am trying to play a role of a savior and helper because through this I am trying to prove to myself that I am a good person which is an idea created in my mind.
I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that my father/mother/husband/wife/boyfriend/friend/child doesn't need my help with his addiction problem because he is able to stop the addiction in one moment; thus whenever I insist that he needs my help and without me his whole life will fall apart, I am having a hidden personal interest within it because I want to play the role of a savior/ helper to prove to myself that I am a good person which is an idea created by myself in my mind.
I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that whenever I think/believe that my father/mother/husband/wife/boyfriend/friend/child is weak, that he needs my help and without me his whole life will fall apart because he is addicted and doesn't control his life, I am entrapping myself and my boyfriend within the polarity creation/manifestation of a victim and savior and as long as I insist that I must help my father/mother/husband/wife/boyfriend/friend/child, I give more and more energy into this creation which actually makes the problem more difficult instead of helping my father/mother/husband/wife/boyfriend/friend/child.
I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that to help my father/mother/husband/wife/boyfriend/friend/child with his addiction problem I must first stop my participation in creating this problem for him through believing that he is not able to solve it without my help and assistance.
To be continued...