I am catching up with posting online my articles.
Today one of the person has dropped off from the project. I am neither surprised nor disappointed. I saw that this person is in the process and is in the decisive moment to face the fear and transform it or fall back. And she decided to fall back. I am kind of used to it that the people fall back because statistically the numbers are like 9:1. 9 persons out of 10 fall back and take more time to digest the lesson one more time and try again later in time. But anyway thanks to this person I got to know my new colleagues and it looks like they are this 1 out of 10. They are different and they understand the process of falling back and wasting time on going through the same lesson again. And so they face the problem and they do the best to transform it on the spot.
I wrote yesterday that I was very cautious and I payed attention to the signs and details of how this person behaves and what she says etc. Simply because I knew that she was at the transformation point. Anyway it payed off because I did not make any major decisions related to this person that would for example put at risk the project etc. Of course I dedicated some of my resources ( time and some money ) to this person lately and this is in a way lost and wasted but at the same time I realise that I need to do it every time when I try incorporate new person. It is because I need to treat this person as a family and somebody equal to me. If I do not do it because I expect them to fall back ( according to statistics ) then I have a problem myself. Thus I do my best to treat the new person as equal and I give and share with them my resources whenever necessary but I am not making any high risk decisions.
Now... I write that I have lost some of my resources on this person that fall back. But this is not really completely true. First of all I would say that this person will come back one day. And secondly thanks to her I got to know new therapists who are very much involved and interested in the whole project. And they are stable in their own process and in the material world and I see that we should be able to move the whole project forward much faster than if I was alone.