Getting used to the abuse

I am catching up with posting online my articles.

The best way to explain it would be to use the examples. And so here is the first one.

Let's say that you get married and your husband beats you up when he is angry. You have been raised in the culture when this is being regarded as normal and so you conform to it. Obviously it is not nice at all when you get beaten by your husband but because you have already deep foundations within your mind with a root belief that this is normal to be beaten by the husband, so you eventually make up within your mind a story or a reason justifying the behaviour of your husband. So you admit to yourself that you did something wrong or something which you should not have done and thus your husband reacts in this way. Interestingly if you lived in different culture you could easily call the police, report domestic abuse and your husband would be in deep shit. But because you are in different culture then calling the police would probably first of all be regarded as something shameful and secondly the police would not intervene at all. And if your husband found out about it he would beat you up again and probably even more severely.

Now... let's say that you have a new husband and he beats you up very rarely. It is not nice either but at least you are very happy because this time this happens only sometimes. And you may be very grateful to god for this new husband. But here are 2 things to consider:

1. Again... if you lived in different culture even this rare incident of being beaten up by your husband would not be acceptable at all and again if you reported him to the police he would be in deep shit.

2. And the second point it... how the fuck can you be grateful to god for this husband ? He does not beat you up as often but still... he does. How could almighty god send you somebody who beats you up ? According to our beliefs god is almighty and everything that he does is perfect and this does not fit into it at all... does it ? Obviously you never ask yourself this question and you simply go to church and/or you pray as a thanks giving for a good husband.

Anyway the main point is that you have got used to the abuse. It is not nice at all to be beaten up and you wish that it does not happen ever again but yet you accept it s normal because everybody does it and you don't question it.

To be continued...


Written: 2014 - September - 16   Published: 2014 - November - 07      © Copyright 2014 - Greg Wiater