I am catching up with posting online my articles.
So I hope ( ;-) ) that you have finally realised that hope is not the way to go not only in marriage but in pretty much all the problems which you are facing unless you have thoroughly investigated and analysed the whole situation and there is really, really nothing that you can practically do. This also happens sometimes but if you really start to investigate this topic then you will be surprised how many problems ( which seem at first too big and unsolvable ) can actually be solved relatively easy.
OK... let's say that you agree with me that the way to go in the marriage is to solve constructively all the problems ( even the smallest and silly ones ) instead of supressing them, pretending that everything is ok and hoping that things will get better by itself.
But then here comes a question about: "how to actually solve the problems effectively ?".
Well... before we get there we must understand that here we are dealing with 2 persons who have their own issues and problems and then we have a relationship and interaction between these 2 persons and the problems of each individual person which is the 3rd element within the problems of the human relationships.
To be continued...