I am catching up with posting online my articles.
Now... most of ( if not all ) the nasty jokes about the marriage and wives refer not as much to the first phase of the marriage but rather to the period of at least few years after the wedding ( or the moment when 2 people started the relationship. And this gives us a clue that something is happening there and/or that people miss something in the beginning and allow for the shit to manifest later in their marriage which "stimulates" people to make jokes and laugh about it.
You'll know... this is kind of a global problem and it affects majority of the married couples ( people in the long term relationships ). And here is the question:
Is there anything that can be done about it ? I mean is there anything that can be done so that there is no need to make nasty jokes about wives marriage ?
You'll see... all that is happening here is a consequence of accumulation of unresolved problems, compromises etc. within the relationship. This is nothing new in the psychology but yet we allow this shit to grow and eventually we come to the point when we feel so overwhelmed by it that we think that nothing can be done about it and we just try to cope with it even though it is at least very annoying. And the jokes are just one of the ways to cope with it.
Thus the key and the solution to our problem with nasty jokes would be to prevent accumulation of the problems within the relationship and simply find the constructive solution to the problems as they appear instead of suppressing them, putting them on the side etc. And this is not difficult as people think about it. What is really difficult is the point when we have the mountain of accumulated and unresolved issues from many years of marriage and then we want to solve them. And on top of it we want to solve them all in one go ( one day ). And practically this is almost impossible. Thus what is happening then is that we give up rather quickly and then we also think that it is not possible have satisfying, supportive and constructive relationship.
Thus the solution to our problem with the nasty jokes about the marriage is to work and solve effectively all the small problems in the daily life within the relationship so that they don't accumulate and become overwhelming.
I have tried and tested it. Maybe not so much in the relationship with the partner but I have applied this rule within my friend relationship. And it does work.
I will say it again... this is not as difficult as people think. It is all possible. But here we need to people to the tango. And both of them must apply effectively the tools of effective communication, self-awareness, breathing etc.
If you need assistance then I could recommend you a course presented by Desteni Group - Agreements - Re-Defining Relationships.