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I remember that as a child I was very afraid of the darkness and the ghosts. I also remember having scary dreams about the devil etc. and sometimes I had the same dream repeating itself. Then I also had an experience when I woke up in the middle of the night and I saw a witch entering into my room. I got so scared then. I did have my father next to me but this did not help. I got quickly covered myself under the blanket and my heart was beating very fast.
Now... let's have a look where does it all come from ?
All of these things about ghosts, darkness, bad witches etc. did not come out of nowhere. Even though I was a little child I can specifically point out the situations when my parents contributed towards implanting fear into my mind: - Reading the fairy stories about the wizards, devils etc. - The same with watching kids tv about these scary stuff - I remember many times my parents telling me that somebody will come and take me if I don't behave good - I was told the same story when I was trying to go a little bit further away from my parents
I know that they had good intentions but in the end these good intentions turned out to be a nightmare and enormous stress for a little kid. Don't you think that my whole life would be much different if I didn't have this fear being implanted into my head ? As I said it was done with the good intention but it was all not necessary and my parents could have directed all of the situations in different way without the use of fear tactics.
Now... I am not here to blame my parents. But I want to point out to all parents to stop to use fear to divert ( reading fairy stories or allowing to watch scary tv programs without directing it properly by explaining to a child the reality ) or manipulate children ( to get them to listen to what you say and demand from them ). Your good intentions cause a lot or problems in your child's life and not only in the childhood but quite often it is being carried out throughout the whole life of a person. I am not exaggerating !!! The emotional problems which result from fear being implanted in the child's head can stay for the whole life.
This thing about using fear to divert and manipulate children is very common problem. It is a mass problem because most of the parents do it and allow it.
How can you love your children if you use fear to divert them and manipulate them ???
To be continued...