Love vs Best for all

There is point of confusion that was coming on and on in the discussions with my friend who had problems within his relationship. He knew about the principle of what is best for all but still he was not able to make a decision. One of the main problems that he was struggling with, was that his partner was not participating in making decision equally but instead was completely passive. And my friend was waiting and waiting but nothing was moving forward. I have suggested that in this case he must make decision for both of them ( for himself and his partner who didn't want to make the decision at all ) and he must follow the principle of what is best for all.

But even then it was not so easy for him to make the decision because of the feelings towards his partner. And it took him quite a long time ( at least few months ) to finally make the decision. But still I see that he is struggling to understand fully that this is the best he could do. Thus he is going now through the process of learning, testing and seeing if the decision was really correct and best for all.

And here is the problem that so many people in the relationships face and because they don't apply the principle of what is best for all in making the decisions, than they go through time loops, more pain and suffering. If the feeling of this great love that you feel towards your partner overrides the common sense and the principle of what is best for all then you should really investigate your feelings. Something is really, really fucked up here.

In any case in the beginning it will be difficult for people to understand this and they will have to go through a lot of turmoil in their lives until they firstly stop allow themselves to be blinded by the feelings of love and then they will have to learn how to make the decisions that are best for all. And this is going to be like learning new language. Some will learn faster and others slower. And we will make also mistakes but eventually we will get good with it.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become blinded by the emotions and override the principle of what is best for all.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that compromising the principle of what is best for all for the sake of feeling of love is fucked up and creates consequences and suffering for the whole world.

I commit myself to make the decisions according to the principle of what is best for all instead of following my feelings and emotions.



Published: 2012 - June - 26      © Copyright 2012 - Greg Wiater